This day was started to encourage conversations with friends and family around how they are feeling. We are encouraged to ask R U OK? and be prepared to then listen or act if the person indicated they may not be ok.
We are asked to notice changes in our friends that could indicate they are a struggling with life, although to be honest I don't know that this is always easy to see. I don't behave differently outwards in public when I'm struggling and will often just retreat and go a bit quiet. People wouldn't know (unless you are super close and in my inner circle of trust) that I was overwhelmed with life. For some it is the ones who go really quiet and if they are not normally, check in on them. You may just notice mood swings, or tears, yelling or frustration and it's ok to ask R U OK? and be told yes I am as well.
As a non-profit organisation, R U OK? was started as a suicide prevention charity, and use conversations as a way to help prevent suicide.
Sometimes this is what someone struggling with the overwhelm of life needs to help them see a way forward.
We are reminded that you don't need to be an expert to reach out - just a good friend and a great listener.
And the R U OK? team ask us to use these four steps and have a conversation that could change a life:
For me I am always available to listen and will listen without interruption or judgment. I will offer hugs and comfort, a hot or cold drink, time, but I will also always advise anyone feeling overwhelmed or struggling with their feelings to reach out for professional advice and guidance. I did just that, and am thankfully still around today to see my children grow up and enjoy so much about life.
The check in is important!! Always check back in ... it's more than ok to check how someone is going and let them know you do care and are there for them. It could make the world of difference. It's a special feeling for the recipient to know that someone cared enough to check in on them
Could you tell the difference?
Me when I had post natal depression...
Me off meds and feeling great...
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